Here’s my latest observation in my own life, though I can’t speak for others. In the midst of our deepest struggles, we have a tendency to pull away in fear and isolate, not recognizing that the deepest camaraderie we hold with select others, is what encourages and supports us when we are not in a place to correctly support ourselves. We cannot do this alone, nor were we ever intended to.
It is the choice of the ego/mind to isolate, protecting our vulnerability and keeping our deepest secrets and fears hidden (this is shame, though it is falsely masked as strength). Only ego/mind entreats us to handle our issues alone, with a false narrative of safety and courageous strength!
The greatest courage is found in vulnerability and the willingness to let others partake in the sharing of our heavy load, where energy and strength can be imparted by another, when ours has waned. We are never alone in our struggles. Though we often feel very solitary, there are so many others who face our same battles, and we are here to love, support, encourage, and lend strength to one another, without judgment! That is our greatest gift and purpose!
Love & Light,
Laura Lum Corby
I’ve learned so much in this last year about what limited time we have here and how important it is to speak our mind today, before the sun goes down, as tomorrow is promised to no one. More often than not, what we hear when someone of significance has been lost is regret for words not spoken, love not shown, opportunities not taken, and a world of unresolved feelings that will never have the opportunity to be fully expressed. This can be true whether someone has passed on, or is just no longer part of our lives.
I truly believe it’s often fear that keeps us from speaking our hearts to others. Fear shows itself in so many different ways. Often we are fearful of the unknown, of rejection, potentially being hurt, feelings not being reciprocated, how we might be perceived by another, and a whole host of other situations that often cause us to build walls of silence, rather than truly articulate our heart’s emotions and desires. Sometimes, it can be more of a situation where we just take things for granted and assume future opportunities will arise to say what should be said at this moment. Life is too precious and far too fleeting for these lapses in communication to occur.
We need to learn to speak our hearts daily. I have a firm belief. There is never a situation where speaking my heart in truth and love is not appropriate… EVER! There should be nothing we can’t discuss with one another, when done so in love and humility. I challenge us all to begin sharing what we’re feeling, even if it’s scary, even if it potentially may not be received or reciprocated as we might like, as that’s not what’s important. What is important is not ever missing an occasion to say what we may never have the chance to say again. It’s not only for our own benefit, but it may have a profound impact on the other person. It could be the very thing a hurting heart needs to hear when the challenges of life have left them bare and in desperate need of love and affirmation. Say it, whatever it is, TODAY!
I wrote this as a reminder to never let the sun go down on what remains unsaid…
Before The Sun Goes Down
So much emotion left unsaid
By now, they ought to know
They’ve been around for long enough
I’m sure the feelings show
I said it once, quite long ago
And thought that should suffice
But now that they’re no longer here
I’ve started thinking twice
So many things I should have said
So much I could have shown
Acknowledging that special place
Where in my heart they’d grown
For everything they’d been to me
For all they’d walked me through
I realized in painful pride
That many more were due
To all those in my life today
Who’ve touched this tender heart
I vow that I’ll start sharing with you
Now’s the time to start
Before that chance is taken
And before the sun goes down
Let me tell you that I love you
And I’m glad that you’re around
Love & Light,
Laura Lum Corby