Tag Archives: Humility

73. Silence And The Softening Of My Rough Edges

This has been a rather humbling week, and necessarily so! It’s been my experience that when I’m made aware of corrections I need to implement in my life, I’m only given grace to continue in those behaviors for so long before there’s a reckoning. This was one of those weeks and two of my recurring lessons of late have been the softening of my rough edges and the awareness of my need for more silence.

My tears stream freely as it’s not an easy post to write. That’s generally the case when I’ve been given a clear glimpse of myself from the outside perspective. It’s rarely pretty, but quite necessary I’m finding, if I want to learn to truly set myself aside, so love has an opportunity to work through me.

I’ve been having an ongoing conversation with a close friend about the words we speak, the opinions we hold, and that more often than not, much more can be accomplished in our silence than in espousing our self-perceived wisdom. There are so many times I feel there are important things that must be fully articulated for the benefit of another. Though my heart is genuinely wanting to help others, much of that can come from a place of ego, which often hinders more than it assists. There’s a very fine line between something we are being led to say, and something we want or feel driven to say. That’s the lesson I’m learning now, and that discernment doesn’t come easy for a lover of words.

I’m learning that more often what is needed is a willing ear to listen, and my silence in response. Humility is a virtue and being a friend involves far more listening than speaking. My input or advice should not be given unless is specifically asked for, and even then, my words should be succinct. So often others pour out their souls because they are in pain and are seeking comfort. Listening, offering a hug, holding a hand, and letting others know we are there for them, are some of the greatest gifts we can offer. Unsolicited advice can shut down, further depress, and feel like judgment to those in the depths of their dark night of the soul. That is the last thing in the world I want to inflict upon another.

Each new lesson I learn is like a surgical knife, cutting away a few more of my rough edges, and prayerfully smoothing over very sharp perimeter that can unknowingly irritate, and in some cases, greatly wound others. I’m watching myself be shaped and molded into a better version of myself, and I’m thankful, both for my own benefit, and that of those I encounter.

Love & Light,
Laura Lum Corby

64. Before The Sun Goes Down

say-what-needs-to-be-saidI’ve learned so much in this last year about what limited time we have here and how important it is to speak our mind today, before the sun goes down, as tomorrow is promised to no one. More often than not, what we hear when someone of significance has been lost is regret for words not spoken, love not shown, opportunities not taken, and a world of unresolved feelings that will never have the opportunity to be fully expressed. This can be true whether someone has passed on, or is just no longer part of our lives.

I truly believe it’s often fear that keeps us from speaking our hearts to others. Fear shows itself in so many different ways. Often we are fearful of the unknown, of rejection, potentially being hurt, feelings not being reciprocated, how we might be perceived by another, and a whole host of other situations that often cause us to build walls of silence, rather than truly articulate our heart’s emotions and desires. Sometimes, it can be more of a situation where we just take things for granted and assume future opportunities will arise to say what should be said at this moment. Life is too precious and far too fleeting for these lapses in communication to occur.

We need to learn to speak our hearts daily. I have a firm belief. There is never a situation where speaking my heart in truth and love is not appropriate… EVER! There should be nothing we can’t discuss with one another, when done so in love and humility. I challenge us all to begin sharing what we’re feeling, even if it’s scary, even if it potentially may not be received or reciprocated as we might like, as that’s not what’s important. What is important is not ever missing an occasion to say what we may never have the chance to say again. It’s not only for our own benefit, but it may have a profound impact on the other person. It could be the very thing a hurting heart needs to hear when the challenges of life have left them bare and in desperate need of love and affirmation. Say it, whatever it is, TODAY!

I wrote this as a reminder to never let the sun go down on what remains unsaid…

Before The Sun Goes Down 

So much emotion left unsaid
By now, they ought to know
They’ve been around for long enough
I’m sure the feelings show
I said it once, quite long ago
And thought that should suffice
But now that they’re no longer here
I’ve started thinking twice
So many things I should have said
So much I could have shown
Acknowledging that special place
Where in my heart they’d grown
For everything they’d been to me
For all they’d walked me through
I realized in painful pride
That many more were due
To all those in my life today
Who’ve touched this tender heart
I vow that I’ll start sharing with you
Now’s the time to start
Before that chance is taken
And before the sun goes down
Let me tell you that I love you
And I’m glad that you’re around

Love & Light,
Laura Lum Corby